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Wednesday 27 February 2013

Mr Jacobs Had Three children And A Beautiful wife ( An inspirational story))

Please read the following story carefully, it's so touching.
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This man, in the face of this life was not fulfilled. This was because he was just a column writer in a local newspaper, and through that, he earned not more than #25,000 in a month.

Consequently, he could only afford a small public school for his children, much to the chagrin of his dear wife.

Slowly but surely, this woman gradually lost all the respect that he had for her husband. Especially due to the fact that she was earning a bit higher than her dear husband due to promotions.

Damn… She was young and beautiful, and this made men to flock around her always trying to get a taste of God’s beautiful creature but she had remained faithful for the love of her husband. But as things stands now, she was moving to the brink of compromise.

She was to see the full dividend of her compromise when a certain chief gave her the sum of #450,000 just for her Christmas shopping. So this is what I have been missing all these while she reasoned. This made her to loosen herself to every big man in town whom she believes would foot better bills for her. Through out the ember months, her class changed even as she unilaterally changed her children’s school to one of the best in the state.

Mr Jacobs her husband, who was into column writing has proved himself to be an enemy to the state government in power. So many times, the governor had sent thugs to man-handle him and even leave him in bruises. His criticism of the brutal governor has not gone down well with his wife either, who had in the past begged her husband to stop the column-writing in order to save his life for the sake of her and the children. Yet, Mr Jacobs held out. The governor had tried in every possible way to stop this man but he seemed not to be afraid of death. He even went as far as rejecting bribes from the government house. His wife almost went mad when she heard that her husband rejected a #500,000 bribe from the governor when they were struggling to eat.
Consequently, her disgust for Mr Jacobs grew.

Mr Jacobs had now started hearing “kepu kepu” about his wife’s escapades in town with high chief and this further led to his frustration but yet, he kept on writing his column.

The gossips about his wife got so much that he had to confront her about it only to be washed with insults by his wife about how “useless” and “irresponsible” he is.
Florence, his wife was a personified venom on that day as she further claimed that Mr Jacobs has not been man enough for her and his children. And since he could not shoulder his responsibilities, other men had to do it for him.
On hearing this, Mr Jacobs who had not beaten his wife ever before, released a hot, dirty slap on Florence’s cheek
Poooooow !!!

That slap… That brutal slap… That ruthless slap, made his wife to tell him that she regrets the day she married him. It was indeed the last straw that broke the camel’s back as regards their marital well-being. Florence could not tolerate that assault, not after catering for the family with her hard earned cash when her husband was not able to.

That Christmas, Mr Jacobs had not planned to move his family home for Christmas because of his cash strapped pocket. But his enraged wife had another plan, especially when she has the big men blowing her pocket.

Just on the morning of 24th Dec, she moved her children to her own home town to spend the Christmas there. Mr Jacobs was to come back from the office after writing an image tarnishing piece against the governor’s wife who had turned her office into a spending castle, only to meet a note on the table from his wife about their whereabouts. All these because i don’t have money, he murmured to himself in anguish . . . . . . . . . And cried profusely like a baby.
Oh poor Jacobs !!

He stayed all alone through out the season, little did he know what was coming.

In the governor’s new year broadcast on the 1st of January, His Excellency shocked the state. Mr Jacobs Anasor is hereby appointed as the new Director General of the State Broadcasting service. His party advisers had advised him to appoint the ruthless writer as a way to seduce him to their side. This was coming after the former board was dissolved 2 weeks ago. The governor feared that Mr Jacobs would reject the offer if he was informed before hand about it, hence he chose to broadcast it first.

Mrs Florence was not aware of this broadcast. But its reality dawned on her when her colleagues, friends and neighbours started raining calls to her phone like never before, congratulating her. This was a shocker. She just could not believe it. Infact, she was confused. Where does she go from here ?

Mr Jacobs was to have a government delegation sent to his house to urge him to accept the appointment which entailed him starting work the next day, which is 2nd of January.

After being handed over at the office, his new secretary came in with a crying woman, HIS WIFE ! He bowed down while struggling to hold back his tears, He Cried.

Monday 25 February 2013

What I Did To Have a Happy Marriage and Home (A married woman speaks)




THIS IS A MUST READ FOR ALL ADULTS, MARRIED OR HOPING TO GET MARRIED
I read this story from a site about the  experience of a happily married woman. I was touched by her efforts in achieving a happy home, that's why I want to share it so you can benefit from her experience i have been.
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I have been married for the past 9 yrs, I'm blessed with 3 kids (2boys and a girl) and I have the most amazing hubby... I'm trying to correct the notion that all marriages are wacky and all because that's not true. It wouldn't be nice if some single girls out there don't get to know that marriages can work if u make it happen.

I got married 9yrs ago to my hubby, we dated for a year and got married..

My friends were like it was too soon since we barely know our selves, I was staying in Abuja while him in Lagos. I just come occasionally to visit him, so after a year, we figured it was time to move to the next level which was very amazing... We got married and I started living the life of a married woman..

We loved each other so much but their were things we did not know about each other since it was long distance hence posed a problem for us.. I had very bad mouth as of that time.. I do like to challenge everyone including him which he didn't like.. We argued a lot which ends up with several beatings..

The first time my hubby hit me, I ran to my aunt's place and later went back home, it happened again and again, but the whole thing was after the beatings, he comes back to say sorry and to tell me how the things I said to him really did hurt and how he's hot tempered and I'm hot tempered and all... 

After a year, I told my self I had to work on my self, I stopped talking too much, prayed more often and asked God to help me with my temper, I stopped challenging him and always make him feel more than superior to me, like magic, the whole fighting stopped.

I took in and gave birth to our twin boys the second year. I was so engrossed with taking care of the babies that I forgot to give my hubby the attention he deserved... When my babies were 5 month old, I went through my hubby's fone for the first time and I found out he was cheating on me.. The girl in question was supposed to be a family friend but she started sleeping with my husband..

I went thru the whole bbm chat and saw the way the girl started flirting with my hubby and how he tried to resist and how he finally fell for her tricks, I was mad, I was raged but at the same time I was determined to be calmed about the whole thing.. I didn't mention it to him when he came to pick up his phone cos I would have insulted him and said so many hurtful things to him, so I pretended like I saw nothing.. 

The next day, I started jogging with some neighbors, after 2weeks I got a treadmill and started using at home.. I was still running in the morning and using the treadmill at night.. After 3 months, I lost the whole baby fat coming back to 60kg which was my initial weight.. I didn't give up, I kept trying to look fit and everything..

One night, my hubby came to me saying we needed to talk, I was like hope there is no problem? He said there is! And I was like lemme hear it. He then opened up to me about his affairs with that girl.. Told me everything that happened, even went ahead to show me the whole chat and how he ended it with the girl and how she's still calling back and begging for more. Of course she was gonna beg for more,my hubby is well endowed and gifted(LoL).

 He was crying and apologizing but I told him he shouldn't worry,that it was all my fault,I forgot about him and he saw attention some where else.. We made up and after 2 days,hegot me a car out of guilt but I told him to stop worrying butI still liked the fact that he got me the car,it was my dream car.

We started enjoying our lives the way it was before; going to the movies, club, hanging out, I gave him all my attention. Even after I gave birth to my baby girl 3yrs later, he didn't cheat on me bcos I made sure I didn't stop been a mother, a wife, lover and friend. As usual, I started exercising again and went back to my body 4months after my baby was born. We were so blessed, work was going fine, home was fine.

Now when I say "Home was fine" it didn't mean we were not quarreling, we were but I just made sure if I was gonna quarrel about anything, it was gonna be something worth it and I tried as much as possible not to be harsh or rude..

There was a time we quarreled and couldn't reconcile immediately like usual and I went out to tell a male friend of mine not knowing that was the last thing I should be doing.The guy was advising me and I felt he was nice. One day, the same talk came up between me and my hubby, when we couldn't reconcile, I drove of to that guy's house.. He consoled me and started kissing me.. I was kissing him back and it suddenly dawned on me, he's not my husband, I couldn't do that to my hubby, I pushed him off and drove back home.

I told my hubby he won and told him how I kissed someone else and he told me he understands, so we'd drop the case even if I was right, deleted the guy as a friend and worked on my marriage.. Since then,we don't stay mad at each other more than 10mins.. My friends come to the house and they are like, I envy ur marriage, that we still act as newly weds and all, but what they don't know is its not easy getting ur family 2geda.

Its so hard been a friend, lover, best friend, mistress, mother, wife, sister all in one.. I'm from a broken home so I know what I and my sister went thru and I didn't want that for my kids.. So I had to fight to make my home work. I got married when I was 18 and right now 27, but when u see me look 24, people never believe I'm 27 or a mother cos I made sure I kept my self looking good.. My hubby doesn't like the whole idea of wrapper or anything so I don't have one except for meetings. I dress in my bum shorts, mini skirts, short dresses, anything to keep me looking good
So at this point I'm going to say, ladies:

1. Marriage is not easy

2. Don't go into marriage expecting so much

3. Don't think ur marriage would not have problems, they will always have, what makes u a woman is the ability to handle it

4. Make ur partner ur friend, best friend, lover, wife, mistress, mother, sister. With that, he can open up to u all the time

5. Never loose urself because u are married, he loved what he saw that's why he married u, try not to go away from that

6. Never share ur problems with anyone, u would get the wrong advice from people, handle ur problems within

7. Do not argue with ur hubby, let him win if u see its gonna pose as a problem

8. For ladies with sharp mouth, trim it, that's the one thing men hate, it took me time to learn, so please and please, never challenge ur hubby, cos it would make him feel he's not in control and men like feeling they are in control even when actually, its the women who are in control

9. Talk to him all the time, appreciate anything he does and encourage him

10. Don't forget to make God ur number one.. Don't joke with prayers, it never fails